Four lettered words

I recently read a musing on love and lust, and the difference there in. And because space there was limited, I thought that I should make more comment here. I do not know if that is a wise decision or not, but then, I am not famous for my wise decisions.

I do have to agree on one point, love and lust are too readily synonymous in our society today. Lust, physical attraction, is what brings two together. Six months at least for hormones to settle and then you can see if there is love left. Too often the fever is equated with the long term haul and that is where problems occur.

Lust is a physical need, especially for a female. It, after all, is a requirement for the propagation of the species. One can almost predict when it is in the phases of the moon you want to get down to hot and sweaty. But when does want of someone become a need of someone? And what of the need when there is no want? The emotional overtaking, competing with, apart from, the biological. That is the difference.

But to talk of love as a decision that one makes? That I am not so sure of. For the saying “to fall in love” is quite appropriate, at least from personal experience.
Though I have to say first, that I believe you can love more than one at a time. Ask any parent. And often the only difference between friend and partner is that you go to bed with your partner. To be in love with your partner, does not necessarily exclude falling in love with another. And that is generally beyond choice. For though one may not choose to be in that situation, would actively choose to avoid it, it is often a nasty shock to the system to suddenly realise that precisely what you did not expect, you have to lay claim to. And such a fall can be quite painful. Definitely leaves scars and takes a hell of a lot to pull out of.

Would that love be logical and sensible. One could then argue a way out of it. But I have often written elsewhere that heart pays very little attention to what mind has to say, even if it uses body to get what it wants. And that is what really annoys. It will not listen to reason and sense, it will not obey normal expectations and conventions and it damned well will not go away when it is told to. Choice? It does make one wonder.